In the Japanese healing art of Reiki, the practitioner sets her physical body and her ego aside to channel a powerful energy. This act of “surrender” has taught me numerous lessons in patience over the years. I am happy to share a few of them with you below!
1. Balance Your Masculine and Feminine Energy
Often times when I discuss manifesting and the art of allowing our thoughts to become our physical reality, people say, “Wait a minute. You want me to sit on the couch and do nothing but think positively about the things I want coming into my life? Don’t I have to work hard and go out and get what I want?”
I answer this the same way every time. There has to be a balance of both! It is a combination of intentional action (masculine energy) and positive surrender (feminine energy). Our society has taught us that we must “work hard” in order to get the things we want in our lives, but I have seen examples of this guiding people down paths of constant stress and tension.
Get clear on your intentions for what you want in your life and take steps to put yourself in situations that would bring about the outcome you want. The surrender comes in to play when the actions you take feel forced, or they are draining your energy. I personally have a lot of big dreams and goals. They would all be life changing in a big way. The way I apply this to my dreams is I take small action steps now on each. I talk about my dreams positively (see step 3 below!), I see my dreams daily on my vision board, and then I surrender and trust that if these things are meant to be they will arrive when they are supposed to.
Try taking one action step toward one of your goals and dreams today. This can be sending an email, visiting your dream home, or making a phone call to someone you think could assist you. Then, after this action, close your eyes and surrender the outcome. You can use the affirmation, “I trust in the Divine timeline. I am patient.” In using this language you become unattached to the outcome, and trust that whatever is in your highest and best good will come to you at the perfect time.
2. Take a deep, healing breath.
As you may already know, our breath is the #1 tool we possess to help us through difficult or challenging times. When we are in an intense moment with a partner, coworker, or friend sometimes the conversation can take a turn. We can find ourselves on the defense and begin taking shallow short breaths. When I notice this starting to happen within me, I take a brief pause to breathe. This act allows me to not attach to the other persons interpretation of what I said, and allows me to possibly reframe my statement in a more intentional clear way.
Try this the next time you find yourself in an intense moment whether in your mind or with another. Sit or lie down comfortably and draw the breath up from the stomach, into the chest, and then pause and hold the breath. Then slowly exhale down this same line of energy till every last bit of breath is exhaled. Try this for 3-5 breaths and see if you notice any difference in your outlook or approach. Then affirm: I am patient with myself and others.
3. Use your voice to communicate patience mindfully.
Our words carry as much weight as our thoughts. If you have read Don Miguel Ruiz’s bestselling book, The Four Agreements, the first one he mentions is, “Be impeccable with your speech.” One of the main reasons I feel this is so important to welcoming patience is that when we tell our friends and family members what is going on in our lives, they hold those thoughts and words in their minds. They may even share your story or situation with others.
If we are impatient, and choose not to communicate mindfully or intentionally, we may say something like, “Life sucks right now. My partner left me, my job is stressing me out, and I don’t know how I am ever going to live the life that I want.” If we are being patient and gentle with ourselves as we navigate through difficult times, we may say something like, “I am going through a difficult time right now. My partner and I have separated, and I am feeling a lot of stress at work. I realize that while I am going through this painful time, there is light at the end of the tunnel. My partner leaving me is creating more space for someone who is better suited for me. I am ready to make a shift into finding more meaningful work.”
The second example gives us space to share our feelings, but leaves the conversation on a positive and hopeful note. Then, when our friends and family think about us, they will acknowledge the feelings of sadness, loss, or pain but our positive statement at the end leaves an impression of trust. They hear you trusting that everything is as it should be at the moment, even if it is painful, and that you are open to moving forward in a positive direction. Therefore, you are being patient and gentle with yourself as you are navigating through life.
These are just my top 3 steps when faced with feelings of impatience. I know that there are so many more, and that is why I would love to hear from you!
Have you had experiences with practicing patience that you think would be helpful to others? Share below!